Interchangeable: Actually Ssandra got what I was saying, first go! She was the only one though. Supertom caught on later on.
I think it was pretty clear when I wrote my OP, I was asking STEVE to visit and speak about HIS definition of what he considers "awesome" to be...for the purpose of making the point that crappy and awesome are different for different people.
I don't think I was being "passive-aggressive" about it though, I was just not revealing my intention for inviting him to discuss straight away. I wanted to make a point and argue his definition of crappy as opposed to awesome. I don't think I got particularly "snippy" either...maybe slightly with you! I think you are making me out to be alot worse than I am here.
It's more about reading the words that I write and not mixing them up to suit yourself...as with what you said about me feeling like I needed to get another place to live to be able to paint! That's NOT what I said at all.
Feeling like I needed a new home is a totally different issue to painting for me...and I expressed that clearly I think. I never said I can't paint until I get a new home, I said I was feeling like my time in this current home is over and I need to find a new place.
I agree with Steve though...and like I said, it probably means I am not doing a good enough job of reading other peoples posts either, and I can think of times when I haven't right now...though I think I sometimes understand what some people are saying better than others seem to, as has been the feedback I've received from them that they feel heard and understood by me. It's not a competition though.
Surely you can see the frustration in writing one thing and then having someone I don't even know (you) interpret it in a different way alltogether to how I wrote it out. That can be frustrating...it doesn't mean you need to take it as a personal attack...I'm more venting that I am frustrated by having to repeat myself constantly...not just with you, but with alot of people here at different times.
Most of the time when I do call someone out for not reading my words properly, they come back and say "oh, you're right...I didn't read that well" ...but you haven't even bothered to see where you didn't.
I don't expect people to be perfect at it at all, that's your interpretation, people aren't perfect and it is all in text so of course it is hard to read totally accurately...but I'm allowed to express frustration when it continually happens I think! It's quite normal to feel frustrated when something constantly happens like this, as Steve himself has said he also experienced.
I don't see any harm in ALL of us making more of an effort to read peoples texts more carefully instead of skimming over the words and missing vital parts just because we want everything to be fast and get through it to move on to the next one. It costs us all more time in the long run when the person has to repeat what they were saying a few times before people understand.
I include myself in there as well btw.
If you choose to not interact with me from now on over this one incidence, then what does that say about your own tolerance level?
I'm sure I will survive though. Best wishes to you as well.
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Originally Posted by interchangeable  Thank you for all of that Steve.
I have to say I was somewhat irked by your attitude throughout this thread Elucidate. That you started out posting in a decidely passive-aggressive way in an attempt to call Steve out on being judgmental about people's *crappy goals*. Then you got rather snarky with several posters because people took you at your word instead of seeing through to your passive-aggressive intent, that you admitted to later.
You've got quite snippy and short with posters for *not listening properly* etc. It just feels like you expect people to be perfect in their comprehension always and I don't see how you aren't setting yourself up for massive communication failure when you expect people to be so completely perfect it at it without exception.
I find it especially ironic considering no one got your initial post the way you intendied it to be. Which you decided was everyone else's communication error and not yours.
Anyway, I know that I'm not a perfect communicator and won't catch every single detail of every single post and may miss someting now and again. As you have made it very clear that you have absolutely no tolerance for imperfections such as those, I shall refrain from replying to you or posting to you directly in future.
All the best in your endeavors. |