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This is a disempowering stance for you to adopt. You can't solve this problem at that level of thinking since that's the level that gives rise to the problem in the first place.
As I've been communicating for many years, I've been misunderstood and misquoted a great deal. Happens just about every day. But if I put too much blame on others for not listening, I'm giving my power away, and the problem just continues. On top of that, I then have to deal with my own frustration.
I think you'll discover as I have that when you feel like blaming others too strongly for not listening, you'll really pointing at yourself for not listening.
That's when you need to pause, take a deep breath, and realize that if the communication isn't happening effectively, you're 100% responsible for it.
Communicating clearly isn't about screaming at people to listen more. That doesn't help. When people aren't hearing you, it means you're not doing a very good job of communicating. For example, you may be trying to use plain text to convey emotional context, but text is a poor medium for that.
When you empower yourself, you can do things like use audio or video or face to face conversation instead of complaining via text, where emotions are so likely to be misunderstood.
For example, I use CGW to convey ideas that would be hard to convey through the medium of blogging. That seems a better choice than blogging about those ideas and then blaming people for not listening if they don't get it.
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Thank you for all of that Steve.
I have to say I was somewhat irked by your attitude throughout this thread Elucidate. That you started out posting in a decidely passive-aggressive way in an attempt to call Steve out on being judgmental about people's *crappy goals*. Then you got rather snarky with several posters because
people took you at your word instead of seeing through to your passive-aggressive intent, that you admitted to later.
You've got quite snippy and short with posters for *not listening properly* etc. It just feels like you expect people
to be perfect in their comprehension always and I don't see how you aren't setting yourself up
for massive communication failure when you expect people to be so completely perfect it at it
without exception.
I find it
especially ironic considering no one got your initial post the way you intendied it to be. Which you decided was everyone
else's communication error and not
yours.
Anyway, I know that I'm not a perfect communicator and won't catch
every single detail of
every single post and may miss someting now and again. As you have made it
very clear that you have
absolutely no tolerance for imperfections such as those, I shall refrain from replying to you or posting to you directly in future.
All the best in your endeavors.