They just have to be clear/definite. Money, girlfriends, freedom are too vague to accomplish. Imagine I would tell you: go make a boyfriend! And you come with a boyfriend and I say: "This guy? He sucks!". And you ask why and I give you my reasons. This is what happens between you and yourself. The bigger you gives you a goal that is too vague. You do something and then the bigger you is dissatisfied because it is not what it wanted.