Originally Posted by Shamou
I feel that bettyboo11 was justified when she said, "and please dont tell me to look into orgies or S&M. =/" ...anyone who needs that stuff to have healthy sex is a bit on the kinky side...
The main question is why does she feel, to have to say it in the first place.
Why does she think that this is a solution someone would suggest?
In her mental map of the world it seems to be a solution to the problem. But she doesn't want to take it.
Therefore the problem seems to be her map of the world. When she thinks about passion in her sex live her thoughts wander to that topic.
Associating the thing you want (passion) with a thing you don't want (SM) is a problem.