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Originally Posted by AVTechman  Why is self-esteem so important?
I have fought with low-self esteem all of my life thanks to my mother over the years. And because of this it has cost me many things, including some potential relationships in the past because of it. And sometimes now I feel as if there's no hope for me. Since women obviously can sniff out so many signals from men, then it seems already that I am doomed because of the fact that I have constantly struggled with my self-esteem and therefore as a result get overlooked.
They say that you have to love yourself first...okay that is a true statement. But how does one love themself??? What would it take for a person who has struggled with something their whole life to be someone that would be a potential catch for someone in the future?? At my age, I sometimes fear that I will grow old and alone because I have family members now in their 50's that are still alone (maybe by choice, not sure).
Is there any hope for people like me?? Or am I a lost cause?? |
Take some form of expressive dance class with a private tutor. When you become more comfortable with your physical expression you will naturally be attractive because people are attracted to people who feel comfortable in their own skin. At the moment you're not. Once you're more comfortable take a dance class with other people.
Once you're comfortable with being in your own skin join a theater group. Get used to expressing something whether you feel it or not. The whole idea of being sincere and honest and saying what you really feel is just bs. Recognize it for what it is. Say what the other person wants to here. Get over yourself. How you feel doesn't matter.
If you were really content with who you were, you wouldn't really care if you had a relationship or not. From where you are standing at the moment, I don't think you are willing to let go of this social construct. So you might as well learn to play the game.
Also if you've already listened to this Abraham Hicks video, listen to it again:
YouTube - Abe Hicks on low self esteem and connection