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nurse929 · 05-06-2007, 01:24 AM

Open eyes - When I met him 9 years ago, ironicaly, he was working in law enforcement. It was through his difficult divorce and child custody battle that he made poor financial decisions and ended up on the other side of the law. I feel that there are a lot of good people who make bad mistakes and have to pay the price. When anyone finds themselves in this situation, they need love, understanding and support more than ever. It is that love and support that will help keep them out of jail once they have paid their debt to society and return home. His family is not supportive because they have never been a close family. The father is a functional but abusive alcoholic who exerts great control over the family. It is that abusive control that prevents the rest of the family from lending support to my boyfriend while he is away. My boyfriend is the one person in the family who weathers the fathers wrath and stands up for what he believes in. In our personal relationship my boyfriend has always been very respectful and attuned to me and my emotions. It is only recently that we have these difficulties. That's why it is so upsetting to me, it is not "normal" for our relationship.

05-06-2007, 01:24 AM	#3 (permalink)
nurse929 Junior Member Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 3	A difficult situation Open eyes - When I met him 9 years ago, ironicaly, he was working in law enforcement. It was through his difficult divorce and child custody battle that he made poor financial decisions and ended up on the other side of the law. I feel that there are a lot of good people who make bad mistakes and have to pay the price. When anyone finds themselves in this situation, they need love, understanding and support more than ever. It is that love and support that will help keep them out of jail once they have paid their debt to society and return home. His family is not supportive because they have never been a close family. The father is a functional but abusive alcoholic who exerts great control over the family. It is that abusive control that prevents the rest of the family from lending support to my boyfriend while he is away. My boyfriend is the one person in the family who weathers the fathers wrath and stands up for what he believes in. In our personal relationship my boyfriend has always been very respectful and attuned to me and my emotions. It is only recently that we have these difficulties. That's why it is so upsetting to me, it is not "normal" for our relationship.