I can't seem to log on with my original user name, so I've created a new one - but I'm the person who started this thread.
Update: Thanks for all the good advice. I'm more or less in the same place - still with my wife, not with the other person I also want to be with. (And I must want to be with me wife, or I wouldn't be.)
I've been a lot more honest with my wife about my feelings, for her, and for my old flame. My wife isn't happy.
Things seem, in one way, coming to a head.
- My wife would like to separate from me.
- And my old flame, well, I don't think she really wants to be with me on a long term basis. We've had some conversations and I think, for both of us, this has been some sort of strange game, almost one of chicken. Who could go the farthest declaring love for the other, who could be brought to the brink of changing their life for the other.
We seemed to have left it several days ago, my old flame and I, at goodbye - goodbye for now, for we both agreed that it was wrong to communicate with each other as long as I was with my wife. That's where it stands with us.
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