I had a fear of talking to girls on the phone. I was never good at it. Why because I never did it. Here is what I wrote in my journal to get over that fear:
why am i afraid to call her up?
she's gonnaa be like "what the hell do you want?!!! you stupid f...r!!! you stupid SOB I hate your guts!!! why in the hell are you bothering!!! leave me alone!!! god!!!"
then i realized that was not going to happen. That's the worst thing that could happen. Just by reading that I filled in some missing IRs. Therefore I've defined the sub IRs of calling her up. And then I fear that I would not know what to say. I had fear because the intention IR of calling up did not have any sub IRs. So I made an outline of the things that I wanted to say. So then I felt better and was able to call her up. Now I still had a bit of fear in me... so I did some visualizations... and then that's when you have to rely on courage to get over the last bit of fear. But then one or two phone calls and magically your fear of calling up a girl goes away.
Like any other fear... its all the same. fear of the unknown = missing IRs.
magic. And you can always get over your fear the same way.
Noticed how Steve help people to get over their fear of death by making them visualize it in a gruesome way:
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While some people rely on their faith to make peace with death, I put more trust in first-hand experience.
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Have you ever thought about how you’d like to die? Assuming you had a choice, how would you like to cross over? Personally I think getting riddled with bullets would be a good way to go. Really go out with a bang. I’d prefer that as opposed to dying in my sleep (which could be confusing) or succumbing to a protracted illness (too slow). I think I’d like a little adrenaline surge on the way out. When you look down and see your clothes soaked in blood and notice the intense pain everywhere, you know your time is up. It’s hard to mistake it for anything else. In that case you have the opportunity to consciously witness and embrace your moment of crossing over. If there’s a lot of pain, death becomes a welcome relief, something you actually look forward to. I imagine it would be rather exhilarating if you don’t resist it.
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Makes you visualize a pretty grewsome way. And explains why its not so bad.
Always the same.
More explanation on fear:
Fear and analysis paralysis