| | Thank you! And more questions re friends!
Hello everyone, this is Yuan again~
First of all I would like to thank all of you who replied. I really appreciate this. You are all very kind, you try to understand me and give me really good advice. It is hard to find people like you guys and I feel very happy to read the posts again and again. Thank you!!!!!!
Yes you are correct that I don't enjoy Accounting. But I haven't discontinued my degree because I managed good results till date and I feel encouraged sometimes. After all, no student dislikes good marks.
Another thing is that CPA held a seminar on campus yesterday and I got quite a bit attracted to the salary, according to them if I have CPA title I would make around AU$80,000 if I work in Australia. I'd be really happy if I can earn that much!
But I REALLY WANT to have a life purpose!!! This is more important than just a job, if I work in a job which I really enjoy, maybe I get both the happiness and enough money, both can be used to fulfill my life purpose.
I just don't know, WHAT is it and HOW do I find it?
To decide this I would love to go out travelling to see the world but I cannot walk away from the uni at this stage because I am an international student and a condition of the student visa is studying full-time while physically remain in Australia.
Maybe I should spend time with my friends. But people around me are not as nice as you guys, they only think from their perspective and they would come to me only when they are bored with others. And they just want to spend time- yes, just to LET TIME PASS. Others only come if they want help with their studies. I like to help people especially in things I am good at, i.e studies, but they don't seem to have any appreciation and they just don't come to me when their studies are fine. (Please pardon me, I like to receive praises that's why I want to be a good student) I don't think I have real friendships that I've dreamed of.
So maybe I should meet more new people? But no one is really interested in others, especially that I am not an Australian and when they started talking things like the footy(rugby) and jokes, I don't know many things and therefore I listen most of the times. It is fine with me and I do enjoy listening to them, but at the end of the day, I still did not make a new friend because nobody noticed me as I cannot talk funny jokes that deserve the attention.
Actually my nature is quite inquisitive and I am always interested in knowing different things, but this is not liked by others because everyone seems so busy and no one really likes to hear questions - except academics I guess. That is why the person whom I talks to the most (apart from family and my boyfriend) is a lecturer (the one who recommended me for Honours study) because he likes my nature of being inquisitive. Sadly I do not have any other person whom I can really talk to at my age.
Can anyone please give some more advice? How to develop and mantain a good friendship? And where and how should I meet new people and start making friends? Maybe I must develop new interest in order to make friends, should I read a book or attend a beginners' class in the community college or what??
Oh and finally I did talk to my parents about my thoughts (I didn't say I considered discontinuing my studies, I don't want to make them worried back home), Mum says now I am only studying the theory that's why it is boring. Later when I start work my experience would be different and it may become interesting. She suggests me to continue studying and get a job in the industry after graduation. If after that I still don't like it, then she will allow me to study or work in any area I prefer.
I think maybe I should obey her, because this is the fastest way I can give them some money from full-time work (Although they say they don't need me to repay anything, but still I want to free myself from the mental obligation). So I will keep study hard and somehow find some more friends????!!! (Please tell me how, please!!) Then I will take a break and really think about what I like to do for my life (I'd love to travel to other countries) but I fear that might be too late...
Please give comments about what I said. Thank you very much. You are all nice people, may all the good things happen to you.
Thank you again for your help. Wish you every success in whatever career you are commited to and all the best!!!!
Last edited by yuan; 05-04-2007 at 11:51 AM.