Originally Posted by Erin Pavlina
You may pick out your parents [...]
In another thread somewhere around here that I know I read but which I can't find now, you talked about doing a blog entry on how (and why?) people choose the parents they did.
As someone who has parents so toxic I changed my name, moved to the opposite side of the planet, and changed my nationality, I have long struggled with this concept. I've gotten to the point where I have forgiven them and cut all emotional/spiritual bonds to them, I'm pretty sure, but that's another topic, actually.
On some level, I do know and believe that the lessons I learned as a result of my childhood and the subsequent difficulties I had were worth learning, but I still struggle with the idea that I looked at that pair of dysfunctional, toxic people and went, "Yeah, okay, I'll have them and the abuse that will go along with them..."
So you don't have to answer in this thread, certainly, and I'm not asking for justification or anything, but your thoughts and insights would be welcome. If you're interested in doing that blog entry, I'll be happy to read it.