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Originally Posted by Wulfen  Seriously, am I the only one who see that as whisful thinking and totally out of touch with reality? If geeks are so good and jerks are so bad, why are the majority of geeks always alone? Does it mean girls are stupid and that they don't know what they want? |
That's exactly what it means. LMAO. Of course there is nothing that can apply to everyone in the whole world, but being a girl and having a lot of female friends, I can tell you that in general, girls don't know what they want. They THINK they do, but they don't. Either that, or they have their priorities backwards and think that they can change a guys personality (so they go for the good looking jerks) easier than they can change the outer appearance (rather than the geeky guys with a heart of gold). The immediate benefits of bringing a good looking guy around their friends and families FAR outweigh bringing the geek around, and you all know how girls depend on everyone else's opinions to gauge if they have made a good choice. Also, they are romantics and think that they will be that special girl that transforms the handsome jerk into a romantic because they are meant for each other and he won't be able to help but change because he loves her. Or some other crazy crap like that.
Personally, I went the geek route. When I met Adam, he was awkward looking at best, but I could see past that right into who he was and that made him extremely attractive as well. What made me different? I have NO IDEA. Maybe it's because I have a much lower ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ tolerance than just about every girl I know, and after one relationship with a handsome jerk I was over it. I realized there was NO WAY I could change a guys innards, but the outtards were up for remodel. And that's exactly what I did. Now, Adam doesn't look at all like a typical computer geek, until he opens his mouth that is. And I am proud to say that I am the only one out of all of my close friends that is not having relationship problems. I am convinced it's because I didn't let something like a closet full of computer expo t-shirt and an unfortunate haircut stop me from getting to know the guy I married so that I could make sure I actually liked him the way he was on the inside before I married him.
So, maybe the computer geeks have a hard time for a few reasons. First of all, because girls aren't capable of understanding that most men are going to be a lot less likely to let a woman change their inner appearance than their outer appearance. It's practically impossible to find someone that has absolutely everything you want in the looks AND personality department, so girls need to learn to pick their battles and pick the WINNABLE one. Unfortunately, girls aren't wired like that, and being such a foreign concept, a lot of girls just don't get it and never will. And second of all, maybe the geeks need to actually make an effort to look better on the outside. Believe me, as much as he doesn't want to admit it, if Adam had been a better dresser he would have been snatched up LONG before I found him. Really, all he had to do was go out in public in his BDU's. Girls LOVE uniforms. Luckily for me, he didn't. Now that he knows how to dress (or at least has a wife that knows how to dress him), and he is well known as a really smart computer geek around here, he has girls CONSTANTLY hitting on him. Of course, being the computer geek that he is, he is completely oblivious to it. But they definitely do it, and right in front of me. They see not only a great guy with the potential to make money, but they see how adorable he is, and that is irresistible. I can't blame them really.
Of course, there will always be the cases where a girl just isn't physically attracted to a guy no matter how well he dresses, and let's face it, girls want a Prince Charming and if the guy is ugly to them, there is no chance. I have been telling my friends (especially my single ones who complain there are no good guys out there) that they are looking at the wrong things. I get that physical attraction is important. Really, I do. I mean, I am physically attracted to my husband and if I wasn't I can't imagine being married to him. The problem is that girls (and guys) use that initial reaction to how the other person looks as their very first measure of whether ot not to date someone. That is the first thing you see, the first thing others see, how you identify people, it's only natural to use that as your initial determining factor of date-ability. I remind them that what's natural obviously hasn't worked, so maybe depending on just looks isn't a great idea. Adam gets more and more better looking to me the longer we are married, and it's not because the way he looks changes that drastically. It's because of who he is. Can you blame girls for not trusting that is going to happen for them though? Believe it or not, girls are just as shallow as guys are. Just like most guys want the girl with the perfect figure and nice boobs/butt/legs/pick a body part, girls want the same thing in a guy (minus the boobs part). It's the whole biological perpetuate the species thing.
Anyway, I am rambling now. This is all based on what I have noticed in my own life. I think that the tide is turning though. So, geeks of the world, don't lose all hope. :P