not an answer, just a thought..
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Originally Posted by andyspinks  sometimes I find that this can lock me out of a conversation until I lose interest in it (if its a group). I think we also have have an interrogative style of conversation that can make it difficult to communicate with "extrovert" people. It demands fast answers and doesn't seem to have the time for "thoughtful" answers. |
The timing in conversations and also other things you mentioned, such as the girls talking over each other, are conversational styles learned from your parents and (sub)culture. It's really impossible to judge a person based on their conversational style (although this might often be the case). I suggest that you learn more about this subject (e.g.
sociolinguistics) and then inform other people around you. After that you should be able to get rid of this conversational tension (imo caused by the incompatibility of conv. styles) and others might understand your position.
I'm sorry I won't elaborate, it would be off topic and too long for one post.
See for example the books by
Deborah Tannen,
[2], there's even a great set of audio lectures on this.