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I just wanted to say thanks, OlderWiser. You made some really great points. I am beginning to get the idea from your post and others that forgiving doesn't mean what the other person did was okay. It's just releasing the control I let others' actions have on me. I really appreciate you sharing your story. I am re-reading a lot of these posts when I need a little help...on my off days.

Yesterday my ex called me (we are still figuring out how to get all his stuff out of the house), and I also saw him (it was kind of strange because I had told him where I was going and he showed up there). We talked a little and shared a hug and it was nice to just let that interaction happen. When a thought came into my head that I was angry at him or wanted something from him, I reminded myself that I love and release him. I can't know what he's doing now unless he chooses to tell me. I can't make him want or love me the way I expect, so I am going on without expectation. I will take each day as it comes.

Thanks to everyone here who has helped me so much. You've been inspirational, encouraging and thoughtful. I look forward to learing more.