I think you are on the right path, but you just might have the terminology a little back to front.
As Shamou has said, you can't tell the difference between a real and a vividly imagined event and so if you create a vivid picture of what you want to happen and use all your senses, get fully involved with your emotions too, you trick you brain into believing that it has already happened.
What will occur then is that the brain will start to notice things that you might otherwise have missed that will help you make your visualisation become reality.
It can start to get a little bit metaphysical here, but without going down that route, if you imagine yourself to be successful, confident and comfortable around the opposite sex then you will start to create that identity and your brain will support you in that by having you do stuff consistent with that identity.
But generally when it comes to the fairer sex, respect them, make them laugh and be interested in them rather than trying to impress them with your own achievements and you won't go far wrong.
I hope that helps
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