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Originally Posted by ken nubo  You have to admit; not all friends are created alike because some people are just losers, okay?
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I've heard and given lots of advice in my life regarding friends and peer groups. I have listened to my grandmother say, "birds of a feather flock together" and mean that if I hang out with the bums I will be seen as a bum by the community and that the community may well be correct in this assessment.
I have had mentors who advised me to, "Stick with the winners." He repeatedly told me to seek out and cultivate genuine friendships with those who had the thoughts, skills and careers that I wanted for my self. He helped me to understand that I was more likely to reach my goals in the company of people pursuing and achieving similar goals.
I sometimes discover that people who have been friends in the past are no longer attuned to the same wave length that I am on today. I do not stop caring about them. I do not stop being their friend. I do quite often quit hanging out with them though. If it is my goal to live a sane and sober life I do not have much interest in chugging pitchers of beer at the local bar or in watching others do so.
The above is not intended as a moral judgment on drinking to excess, falling down and puking. It just is not on my list of things that enhance my life. YMMV!