| | Should I end my college relationship?
So looking at the age polls, many (if not most) of you are in your 20s. Some of you may be able to relate to my problem, and I'm asking for your advice please..
I have the quintessential college relationship. We met the first week of school 4 years ago and have been more or less inseparable ever since. It was the first time love really hit me in the face..being with him was a dream, the romance that you wish you had but always seems elusive.
We've had our share of drama due to immaturity..breaking up all the time, the issue of being attracted to other people (but not cheating), long distance over the summer.. the longest we broke up was for about 6 months but that time was torture for both of us.
Fast forward to now, he is graduating and has a job lined up in the same area. I am taking longer to graduate so I will still be in school next year.
I just have so many doubts about whether or not I'm clinging onto the passion we used to have. He used to adore me to the point where I would get annoyed, but now that he's calmed down I don't feel as loved. Our love has developed into a deep and caring friendship more than the red hot romance it used to be.. I know this is completely normal, but we are still so young.. that I dont know if that's normal. Does that make sense?
I guess the thing that has been bothering me the most is our sex life.. we haven't really touched each other in weeks. And you know when it gets to be that long.. I feel awkward trying to start anything, you start to view them more as a ..cuddly friend? We have no shortage of cuddling but for the first couple years our sex life was AMAZING..i can't wrap my mind around how that kind of passion could just fizzle out? I don't want to accept it..I have no idea how to revive it..and please dont tell me to look into orgies or S&M. =/
I've tried talking to him about it, but he says the more I bring it up, the more I make a big deal about it..thus perpetuating the problem. He says he's just tired and busy lately..but he's always been busy, never too busy for me. He is a 22 year old hot blooded (or used to be) male.. his sex drive should be off the charts at this point in his life. I know I definitely feel..deprived.
He said he's completely happy with me and doesn't want to break up anytime in the near future. I can foresee marrying him at some point, but not if our sex life continues this way because I can't imagine sustaining a marriage without it..especially if it starts before we even freakin get engaged. To make things worse, his mom is moving in with him this summer (due to financial problems) and he's starting work in August while I continue to take classes.
Please help.. I love him so much, we can talk forever and make each other laugh till it hurts.. and the last time I broke up with him for six months, I almost never got him back. I don't want to lose him but I find myself increasing frustrated and wanting that passion back that we used to have.