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learningtogrow · 04-27-2007, 07:19 PM

I realized recently, that I had a big problem with judging people. MAJOR when it comes to infidelity, lying, and disloyalty. I think for so long I've tried to be "loyal" to others and when it isn't returned, I would take it personally (another issue:-), judge, and whatever else I do that literally ties my stomach up in knots.

I'm trying to come to a way of thinking about these people that doesn't create anxiety and stress in me b/c i do realize I'm the only one I'm affecting with these thoughts. Apparently I thought my opinions might matter to them (wrong)? Maybe I thought if I ignored the situation it would seem like I condoned their behavior?

I've decided to look at individuals with a detached/observer mentality at this point. Is it o.k. to just let it go and believe that their karma will take care of it? Or would that be judging as well. I think if I believe that it's o.k. for the universe to judge and not "me", that will bring peace for me. However, since I am the universe, am I still doing the judging?

04-27-2007, 07:19 PM	#1 (permalink)
learningtogrow Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 52	leaving judgement behind I realized recently, that I had a big problem with judging people. MAJOR when it comes to infidelity, lying, and disloyalty. I think for so long I've tried to be "loyal" to others and when it isn't returned, I would take it personally (another issue:-), judge, and whatever else I do that literally ties my stomach up in knots. I'm trying to come to a way of thinking about these people that doesn't create anxiety and stress in me b/c i do realize I'm the only one I'm affecting with these thoughts. Apparently I thought my opinions might matter to them (wrong)? Maybe I thought if I ignored the situation it would seem like I condoned their behavior? I've decided to look at individuals with a detached/observer mentality at this point. Is it o.k. to just let it go and believe that their karma will take care of it? Or would that be judging as well. I think if I believe that it's o.k. for the universe to judge and not "me", that will bring peace for me. However, since I am the universe, am I still doing the judging?