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Originally Posted by Smokefish  My experience with forgiveness is...
I was angry (and angry is not a strong enuf term) with an ex for the abuse he inflicted on me. After much reflection, I realized that I was equally (or maybe more so) angry with myself for picking him in the first place and for putting up with it for so long. I gave a lot of myself that I didn't get back in return. I felt cheated. I wanted him to realize how hurtful he had been, I wanted him to be sorry. I never got that from him... But at some point, I realized that I chose that situation and after much reflection I understood why and what I learned from it. I realized that I gave my best to the situation and ultimately so did he, although it was not what I had anticipated. |
You dealt with a lot of the same feelings I have right now. Particularly wanting him to realize and be sorry. I just want some kind of acknowlegment of what he put me through, but I am realizing not to count on it. I am trying to forgive him anyway. Thanks for sharing your story.
@ken nubo - You are right. Holding a grudge won't do any good. I need to just live according to what I value and stay out of other people's business (I can't control what they value, so why try?)