As most posters before me, I don't really believe in forgiveness. I believe in owning my emotions, in accepting the responsibilty for my emotional reactions.
To that end, I found was that it was tremendously helpful to actually FEEL how I can take responsibilty for my own feelings.
So I tried something "harmless", something that didn't have any dramatic impplications. Once I found out how I could make myself laugh out loud without any external stimulus, things got a lot easier. I used NLP for that, and it worked great.
Of course, I still had (and still have) a lot to learn. And somewhere along the way, I realized I was about to let go of the idea of guilt. More and more, it was about how to deal with the here and now, and how to be calm and compassionate.
I am also interested in how you see forgiveness, from a christian perspective. What IS forgiveness, from a religious point of view?
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