[Sanctero]

Originally Posted by {aspiring_to_clarity}

In a couple of previous threads (here and here if you are interested, but not necessary to follow this post) I talked about the end of a romantic relationship. Now I am wondering how I can truly forgive the person I lost for things he did that hurt me.

How do you define forgiveness?

Do you feel it is necessary to forgive to get over the past?

Is there a difference between the religious (mostly Christian background here, so keep that in mind) idea of forgiveness and letting go of the past?

How do you forgive (I know there are things I've forgiven in the past, but I must have forgotten them too because the process escapes me )?

Does it mean you no longer feel pain when you think of the things you've forgiven?

This is all off the cuff, so forgive me if any of these questions don't make sense. If anyone has any thoughts at all on forgiveness and how to achieve it I am all ears. Basically, I am able to interact with my ex without showing anger, etc., but in my mind and heart I still feel bitterness and pain. That's not the way I want to be.

Thanks!

Everything that has happened in our past both good and bad has created what and who we are at this present time. What we do at this moment is what creates our future. Forgiveness should become thankful for allow us to become who we are for with out the bad lessons we would not be who we are. Make your own future and forget about past and do somethign now for future.