I agree with Shamou.
There are certain "big decisions" in life that everyone faces. Sometimes there is a "right" and "wrong" choice, but most of the time it is not this black and white. Ultimately it comes back to you and your values.
Vic if you haven't found them already, Steve has written some great articles here on living your values. To quote Steve: "The main benefit of knowing your values is that you will gain tremendous clarity and focus, but ultimately you must use that newfound clarity to make consistent decisions and take committed action."
Living Your Values Part 1 Living Your Values Part 2
Best of luck and welcome to the boards.
Peter