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Originally Posted by {aspiring_to_clarity}
If anyone has any thoughts at all on forgiveness and how to achieve it I am all ears.
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For one thing… I don’t believe in forgiveness… You can tell someone that you forgive them… it may make them feel better… but it’s not going to do anything for you…
However… there is another approach that you can use… and in order to use that approach… you have to consider this…
Unless you are physically aggressed… words and deeds have no inherent capacity to hurt you… except the capacity that you… and you alone… can give it…
If I call you a fool… you and you alone can decide if that is going to hurt you or not… if you were cheated on… you and you alone can decide if that is going to hurt you or not… if someone steals something from you… you and you alone can decide if that will hurt you or not…
If you cannot take those decisions for yourself… you are no better than a robot… that is, you are controlled by outside influences and have no control over yourself…
That being said, saying or thinking that you forgive… will not help you in any way… but, it is in your power to decide that those incident will no longer hurt you… that is what is called, “personal mastery”… and, what I honestly believe to be the only way of getting out of the pain that you are now feeling…
I do wish you the very best… and I certainly hope that the view expressed in this post will not hurt you even more…
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