Well you can think what you like James...you weren't the one on the other end of the comments and they weren't directed at you.
Also, I wasn't the one who used the word "harassment" Ssandra did though.
All I said was that I didn't appreciate the comments he made and I felt uncomfortable. If he is allowed his neanderthal expressions than I am also allowed mine.
I feel invalidated and like you are minimizing it and making me out to be the 'bad' one here...and that isn't true. I just stated that it made me feel uncomfortable.
That's how I felt and that's totally valid whether you want to validate it or not...it's not important what your oppinion is at this juncture...though you are entitled to it.
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Originally Posted by James81  Oh, is this what this is all about? Sheesh. 
I remember reading that thinking that "harassment" was such a strong word for what really happened there.
Your interpretation of those comments as being "harassment" does seem to me like something that you created within yourself (i.e. the feeling of being harassed). I think if it were harassment, it would be very skeezy comments made to you in private. The comments posted openly on a forum like this, was probably just him trying to be funny.
I *do* recognize, however, that my interpretation of the situation is also a measure of things I'm creating for myself. So my interpretation of this is telling me things about me, just like your interpretation of things tell you things about you, and blacko's interpretation of things (along with this reaction) are telling him things about him. |