Originally Posted by elucidate
So, you think that it's MY issue that I didn't feel comfortable with the comments he was making to me, and that I felt the need to put up my boundaries?
I don't think that it indicates anything about me at all other than I have healthy boundaries and don't like having rude comments thrown at me...but you can think that.
It wasn't just me who mentioned it to him either...Ssandra agreed that it was totally innapropriate and rude of him, and she's a Mod...a VERY open-minded Moderator.
I don't think my issues have anything to do with someone else pushing the boundaries, as blacko did.
Oh, is this what this is all about? Sheesh.
I remember reading that thinking that "harassment" was such a strong word for what really happened there.
Your interpretation of those comments as being "harassment" does seem to me like something that you created within yourself (i.e. the feeling of being harassed). I think if it were harassment, it would be very skeezy comments made to you in private. The comments posted openly on a forum like this, was probably just him trying to be funny.
I *do* recognize, however, that my interpretation of the situation is also a measure of things I'm creating for myself. So my interpretation of this is telling me things about me, just like your interpretation of things tell you things about you, and blacko's interpretation of things (along with this reaction) are telling him things about him.