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Originally Posted by elucidate  So, you think that it's MY issue that I didn't feel comfortable with the comments he was making to me, and that I felt the need to put up my boundaries?
I don't think that it indicates anything about me at all other than I have healthy boundaries and don't like having rude comments thrown at me...but you can think that.  |
That still means that it means something about you
James doesn't say that it means something BAD about you, but it does mean something about you...
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It wasn't just me who mentioned it to him either...Ssandra agreed that it was totally innapropriate and rude of him, and she's a Mod...a VERY open-minded Moderator.
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And that means something about me too.
As a group of people playing together we have a certain set of rules... if someone steps over those rules, it means something about us and our rules. Not that other person.
We are entitled to say something about that to that other person, but we don't have to make it about that other person, because it really isn't. It is about us
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I don't think my issues have anything to do with someone else pushing the boundaries, as blacko did.
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It's not about issues. It is about YOU. In this case, YOUR boundaries...