Hi Showgirl! I'd certainly like to know some coping mechanisms, too.
With my goals that don't have pre-set paths, I'm often kind of lost. I usually try to find someone else that's done what I'm trying to do for some rah-rah support. Or I'll read a self-help book for the extra boost that it comes with. However, often, it's like stumbling around, hoping you're going in the right direction, but if you don't know anyone that's done what you're trying to do, a blow can cause some heartache. So yes, I too, would appreciate some coping mechanisms!
However, with my goals that have a pre-set path (for instance, I'm working on raising my Math SAT score--no question of what to do: study and practice) it almost becomes an addiction. I'll do poorly and poorly again, but after each time I had this feeling, kind of like the contestants do on "Deal or No Deal" that I should just do it one more time and see what happens... and that's what keeps me going. The curiousity of what would happen if I did it one more time. I now got my first big success for holding in all that time.
My 3 cents!  |