 Be your own best friend
My best friend died suddenly when he was 42.
I felt like I wanted to die too. I stopped trying to live the life I wanted to live and went into a grieving mess.
I thought it was too hard.
After a while I realised noone was going to take care of me. So I stopped wishing that they would and began to look after myself. I saw myself as my dearest friend or my own child. She was desperately in need of care. I did not know how to really do it so I just started with physical care.
Good nutrition helps. Routine helps. When kids eat crap and don't go to bed on time it does their head in. Adults are the same. Work out what you would do if you were your own kid. If your best friend were in your situation what would you do? At this point would you be putting other people's needs before yours?
Exercise, especially gentle stretching is good for grief.
Find someone who has lost someone and comfort them.
Well done for asking for help. Well done for taking space from family. Spend time in nature. It's important.
Sending love
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