Originally Posted by James81
Yeah, but why aren't you willing to do that?
(I'm curious to see what answering that produces, not asking you to actually do that.)
Oh I know, I'd never be tempted to actually do that. Well, at the moment, this guy I know.. He is great on paper. Literally perfect for me when you think about him as a person and his likes and dislikes. We get on great, too. But. There is not a single ounce of sexual attraction, at least not on my side. And for me, that's a huuuge deal. Now, I've gone out with guys I've not been all that attracted to (but none who have done nothing for me) and it's never worked out well sex wise, so I know for me it's important to have that. He's not ugly or anything, just that he feels more like a safe big brother or something. And I don't want just someone who makes me feel safe, I want someone who I feel excited about.