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Minimabs · 07-23-2010, 05:08 PM

I've been single since my divorce a few years back. I've dated here and there but none of them have been what I call long term partner material.

If you'd have asked me following my divorce my feelings about single forever i would have panicked and probably felt longer term that I would also be incomplete. But as time has passed I've become more interested in my own development, interests, friends and family etc.

I guess because my life has unfolded in such a positive way over the last few years I feel like I have a lot of faith in the future now - whatever it holds. If it's a single but fulfilling life then I can accept that and if someone knocks me off my feet that that would be good as well.

I don't think it's a bad thing to want to have a partner to share your life with - us humans do like to pair up. But I wouldn't accept a compromised relationship just for the sake of having someone in my life. I wouldn't be wanting perfection in another because I can't offer that in return but the person would have to add a lot of value to my life to be in it.

I think what I'm trying to say is - I've let go of the future in that respect. If it happens then great and if it doesn't then I will have a good enough life on my own.

No right or wrong answers or feelings I think.

07-23-2010, 05:08 PM	#4 (permalink)
Minimabs Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 168	I've been single since my divorce a few years back. I've dated here and there but none of them have been what I call long term partner material. If you'd have asked me following my divorce my feelings about single forever i would have panicked and probably felt longer term that I would also be incomplete. But as time has passed I've become more interested in my own development, interests, friends and family etc. I guess because my life has unfolded in such a positive way over the last few years I feel like I have a lot of faith in the future now - whatever it holds. If it's a single but fulfilling life then I can accept that and if someone knocks me off my feet that that would be good as well. I don't think it's a bad thing to want to have a partner to share your life with - us humans do like to pair up. But I wouldn't accept a compromised relationship just for the sake of having someone in my life. I wouldn't be wanting perfection in another because I can't offer that in return but the person would have to add a lot of value to my life to be in it. I think what I'm trying to say is - I've let go of the future in that respect. If it happens then great and if it doesn't then I will have a good enough life on my own. No right or wrong answers or feelings I think.