I'm a girl, so this is my perspective...
Girls don't mind nice guys. It's the "everything-to-every-girl" guys that turn girls off, because they come off as bland.
If you want to get the girl...learn to market yourself better.
If you want to keep the girl...develop yourself into a better person.
If you can't get her attention, then how will she ever know how awesome you are?
I have a male friend who is AWESOME. But, I'm not attracted to him. My friend doesn't market himself in a way that attracts me, so he won't "get" me romantically. But, he will keep me as a friend because he is a great person.
My current boyfriend is the prototypical nice guy: shy, soft-spoken, maybe even a bit girly. Some men might even consider him wimpy. But, he markets himself in a way that appeals to me: he is incredibly stylish, and plays up his shyness in a way that makes him really cute and puppy-ish. Now, I don't know him extremely well, but if he continues being a great person, he will keep me as a girlfriend.
Figure out what type of girlfriend you'd like. And then try to imagine, "what sort of boyfriend does this girl want?" You have to gain focus. You can't try to be appealing to all women, because then you won't get any.  |