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Originally Posted by AjaTrinidad  I've been single now for 2 years, and for some reason, people think I should be very depressed about this. I'm not of course. And I don't really think "when is my next relationship going to be??"
To more directly answer your question, as strange as it sounds, if I knew that in the future, I'd never find someone again, I'd be ok. I don't actively seek relationships (i.e., go to places for singles, or try to meet people online), but I'm very open to a relationship if it comes my way. People seem to think that you have to go "looking" or else, "how will it happen?" but my experience has always been that, when a relationship is supposed to happen for me, it happens.
Maybe your feelings are a sign that you should work harder on 1. being happy as you are (single) and 2. not focusing so much on the future
Don't worry about it so much  |
Oh you're right of course. I am very happy with my life, however I must admit, the thought of never being with someone does feel daunting despite all that. So maybe I'm not
as content as I could be.
Most of my friends are in relationships, all of my colleagues are in a relationship so yes, I do find myself sometimes stuck in the frame of mind that in order to have a "complete" life you need a relationship, too. Of course lot of those people have lots of other things which I do not feel any pressure to have. Yet whenever someone says: how come you're still single, it makes me cringe. I don't get the same feeling if someone asks me "how come you don't have a doctorate/kids/big house/etc". So yeah, there is definitely something there I need to work on.