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Originally Posted by John Freestone  One of the main reasons I came back, and one of the reasons I responded earlier in the post that got me banned, is that it's hard to just put someone on ignore and hope that they've stopped writing insults, and it's my right to keep making clear that I reject your interpretations and take exception to your repeated posting of what I consider lies about me. |
What I've found is that if there's no truth in what someone is saying about me, it doesn't merit any attention at all. It depends on the circumstances, etc., but for the most part, if someone posted on this forum, for example, "Caren is a self-righteous a**-wipe" I'd have no need to respond to that. I know the truth about myself, people who know me well and love me know the truth about me, and that's good enough for me.
I've let go of the need to have everyone like me, all the time, and if someone is going to form an opinion of me based on a forum post by someone else, then they really wouldn't be the quality friend I'd like to have anyway.
I was thinking all this, and Erin, with very good timing, posted this today:
How to Handle Public Criticism
You do have the right to refute what someone says, but if in doing so, you come out looking like an ******* - well, that's even worse than someone saying something about you! That's YOU taking those actions, YOU saying those hurtful things, whether it's in response to someone's provocations or not.