It is also often the case that spirits choose to experience things on the other side without entirely comprehending how hard it is to deal with them in the physical reality. But this is not unlike life. How often have you made a decision you regretted afterwards, or got into a situation and thought "how the hell did I wind up here"?
No matter how awful your experiences are does not necessarily mean you didn't choose them. If you are severely drunk with a hangover, blackouts, and feeling nauseous, you still chose to do it to yourself.