Thanks, Barb. I definitely see where you are coming from.
An additional aspect that makes all of this a little more difficult is that I was close to his family long before he and I got together. In fact, I am helping his mom with an event this weekend. When we spoke the other day I mentioned that I was going and asked if it would bother him. He very kindly said that I was part of their family before all this and should continue as such.
I am starting to finally get a hold of the thought that the way he is at this time is not the character of a guy I want to give my heart to, though I still love him very much (it's painful to see so much potential and light in someone that they ignore or push down). It is much less tempting to get back together with someone who has shown me I can't trust them. Every day that passes makes me a little safer where my heart is concerned because I see more and more that there were things that weren't working for either of us in the relationship. That is why I think we might be able to be friends, but for now I am not establishing contact. If he calls (which is infrequent) I have polite conversation and remember the reasons we broke up and the wish I have to be able to respect myself for my actions as a result.
Thanks for taking the time to write. I tend to ramble on in these posts, but it's nice to know that people out there are so caring. I will try to take good care of myself. Best to you as well.
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