Hey aspiring
I have no words of wisdom for you only that one day you will be over this and will look back with wonder at how far you have come.
As for the being "friends" only thing, well in my opinion it is a very difficult thing to do if you still love the other person and feel betrayed. It's probably easier if you have made a mutual decision to call it quits. Maybe in a few months or years you will be detached enough to do this, but at the moment while you are still hurting I think it's practically impossible to do this without hurting YOU. It seems you are a really nice, kind person who hopes he will one day see the light and realise what he has missed in being in a relationship with you and maybe come back to you.........
So in the meantime, take the time to love yourself FIRST, put yourself FIRST, do all those self love things for YOU. Most of all be kind and gentle to aspiring.........and you know if one day you have moved on far enough, you will know that you really can do so much better for yourself and be with somebody who is committed to you 100%. I know for myself it took me a long time to get over my last heartbreak, but now I KNOW for sure if that person were to contact me again I would be able to be civil enough to have a pure friendship, happy if he had somebody else.......you cannot just turn love on and off like a tap, so allow yourself to keep on loving him but with detachment.......he will always have a special place in your heart but the biggest love place in your heart should primarily be about you.....
Barb
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