^ Yea, I know what you mean. I'm taking a different tack. I'm talking about not just fixing the temporary "problem" of low confidence NOW, but rather raising the baseline confidence level up so that your level of confidence when "normal" also rises. That is, fix the underlying illness, not just the symptoms. That doesn't eradicate your low points, but it does limit how low they go, and raises your high points. If you can picture a graph with a wave deviating from a line. And as the line rises, so does the wave and local min and maxes.
If you've got chronically low self-esteem, then you can temporarily raise your confidence level, but you're gonna fall back down to your "normal" levels of self confidence because you haven't dealt with the underlying issue. Thus my suggestion of improving self-esteem. Its not an either-or proposition, I still consciously stand up straight and pull my shoulders up when I'm feeling down, but I also recognize the need to have a good relationship with myself and improve my self-esteem. I also felt that the temporary solutions are more likely to be mistaken for arrogance than real self-assured confidence.
To the OP, A few questions which really helped me start thinking more critically about my relationship with myself:
Do I love yourself, unconditionally, even when I'm not happy with some part of you or your performance?
Can I forgive yourself for mistakes in the past, recognize that I made what seemed like the best decision at the time and that I will try my best not to make the mistake again?
Do I trust yourself, truly trust myself?
These questions are interlinked.
There have also been a few other threads on both self-esteem and confidence, I would suggest searching the forums.
HTH.
