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Originally Posted by Simmiah  ...insecurities come out in the form of tiny attacks on my way of doing things. I've found the source of this to be some form of insecurity on the part of the guy in respect to his intelligence or "success" in the world. |
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Originally Posted by RT Wolf I'm the opposite. Intelligence is very attractive to me. However, I can still understand the choices of people as they are. |
I agree with both points. I've sometimes heard beautiful, intelligent women described as daunting my some guys (well, they say scary, but they mean daunting). After questioning them I found out that it was because of the confidence the women project, and the belief that someone like that would never go for them (no matter how great a catch the guy in question would be). I suspect it has to do with men's perceived role in the world, a role of protector and provider. Perhaps they see themselves as less of a man if the women so clearly doesn't need protecting or providing for. I wouldn't be surprised if this sort of thing has been studied before.
I'm very strongly attracted to those sorts of women. In respect to a man's perceived role, a woman's confidence and intelligence and independence is attractive to me because they obviously don't need that from me. So any interest they display stems from desire, not need.
I'm even more attracted if they express their intelligence in a humourous and playful way (though that does make them much less daunting, and thus more attractive to other guys as well).