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Simi · 04-18-2007, 07:20 AM

Respectable Members,
Hello to all,

I am 25 years old girl. I am software Engineer and working outside to my city.
First time I came out so far from home and encounter to my weakness. I wish to share my weakness with all of u to get overcome.

I felt that still I am so young who never see the world. I am good looking but not smart. Anybody make me fool and also I accept it because I don’t have opposing power. Although now I want change my attitude. Please give your suggestion and help me to come out from my weakness. I am ready to go for all the positive changes and to set my mind up.

I could able to go against of anything, anything means anything no matter how important it to my career or life. Infect before today I never feel to do strongly oppose. There are so many light matters that can be either solves or I accept it as solution. But now I feel that this attitude lead others to rule over me and direct me according to them. On few matter they will ask me for suggestion but most of them are pre-decided.

I am quite hesitating or shy girl. I am not able to do negotiation or bargaining during shopping. I don’t want to do discussion with blue-choler worker group. I am also not at all expressive.

My problem is that as till today I accept their solution as final and last one. But now according to my level of understanding I felt that there are better solution or solution can be modify. However I don’t have confidence that whatever be my solution is right or not, even I don’t have strength to say anything about my view to my dears. Actually my attitude never allow me to go against there decision and keep my point in front of them.

Due to my attitude everyone set their mind that whatever they decide I can accept it.
I want to change this vision. I want to change my attitude in such a way that nobody can hurt and I become able to take decision.

I request to the entire experience people please suggest me right way. My especially request to all mother who understand problem of there young girl.

Thanks & Regards

04-18-2007, 07:20 AM	#1 (permalink)
Simi Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 6	How to make your own decision ? Respectable Members, Hello to all, I am 25 years old girl. I am software Engineer and working outside to my city. First time I came out so far from home and encounter to my weakness. I wish to share my weakness with all of u to get overcome. I felt that still I am so young who never see the world. I am good looking but not smart. Anybody make me fool and also I accept it because I don’t have opposing power. Although now I want change my attitude. Please give your suggestion and help me to come out from my weakness. I am ready to go for all the positive changes and to set my mind up. I could able to go against of anything, anything means anything no matter how important it to my career or life. Infect before today I never feel to do strongly oppose. There are so many light matters that can be either solves or I accept it as solution. But now I feel that this attitude lead others to rule over me and direct me according to them. On few matter they will ask me for suggestion but most of them are pre-decided. I am quite hesitating or shy girl. I am not able to do negotiation or bargaining during shopping. I don’t want to do discussion with blue-choler worker group. I am also not at all expressive. My problem is that as till today I accept their solution as final and last one. But now according to my level of understanding I felt that there are better solution or solution can be modify. However I don’t have confidence that whatever be my solution is right or not, even I don’t have strength to say anything about my view to my dears. Actually my attitude never allow me to go against there decision and keep my point in front of them. Due to my attitude everyone set their mind that whatever they decide I can accept it. I want to change this vision. I want to change my attitude in such a way that nobody can hurt and I become able to take decision. I request to the entire experience people please suggest me right way. My especially request to all mother who understand problem of there young girl. Thanks & Regards