| | Competing with Others
I find that I automatically seek to measure my worth against those of people around me. What are they doing? Am I doing better? How can I stay ahead? But for the last few months, I have stopped comparing. My new motto is "Never compare, never compete." I conciously choose role models and learn from them but I don't seek to compete with them.
Its been an interesting shift and I still find myself trying to compete with others, particularly my syblings,but when I notice myself doing it, I just shift my awareness back and focus on myself.
Truthfully, I can't know what advantages and disadvantages you have or the people Im competing with posess, so yes I will always be able to beat someone and be beaten by someone else but how does that help me grow? It doesn't. I am now judging myself based on how hard I tried, what I learnt, what I think and learning from others. Its more peaceful and I find I am learning more. I don't have to try and prove myself as much. Although interestingly, I still do try and explain and justify my choices. I am always seeking to pidgeon myself in the middle, not to stand out too much as a super high achiever but not be a drop out either. I am still working on it. I am trying to conciously stop limiting myself and just focus internally. Stop explaining, stop comparing, stop telling even. Just do it.