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Originally Posted by Shamou  The point is... no one should ask a bald man how to grow hair... yet he probably knows more about the stuff than anyone else...
However, I feel that unless someone has walked the walk... did the deed... and obtained the success... he or she is not qualified to coach anyone just yet..
Just my opinion though...
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I understand what you mean, but there's little I can say over a message board that can tell you I have hair the only way is to show it to you (if you don't mind me following your metafor).
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I'd have to agree here. Free coaching is one thing....but paid coaching, you really need to know what you're talking about.
When I first started coaching, honestly it was a terrifying experience.
One interesting thing that may surprise both of you is that in coach training....coaches are NOT suppose to give advice. Advice is the role of a consultant.
Coaching is more about leading the client to discover their own wisdom.
But on the other hand, I have yet had a client that didn't expect some advice and counsel. People hire coaches that they feel are "the expert". Without some really strong communication skills to get people to figure out where they are stuck and what their next step is.......you can't really make it as a coach.
Coaching is about #1 about listening...on all levels. You have to go with your hunch many times and ask them about it. "Fred, I'm hearing you say that you want to keep working for XYZ Corp, but your voice betrays you...what's up with that? What are you really feeling?" Sometimes your hunch is dead on...and other times...you're way off. And as a coach, you have to just let it go because it's not about you...EVER! Keeping with the clients "agenda" is top priority and it takes a lot of maturity to keep on track and to keep your ego 100% out of it.
#2...Coaching is about asking the right questions to cause a shift in the clients thinking. The questions are almost always intuitive and can't be "preplanned"....that takes EXPERIENCE! To be able to listen and come up with a question on the spot that shifts your client's entire thought process produces a fair amount of pressure.
The goal is to take the client from their current unsettled state to an empowered "I can Do it" place. It takes experience and practice.
Finally, you have to acknowledge that shift when you hear it in their voice and then and only then do you create an action plan.
It's an intricate system and I would highly discourage anyone from hanging out a shingle that says "COACH" without some training....at least the basics.
Like I said....Coaching is NOT ABOUT GIVING ADVICE!!!! (that is a small portion and it's only given upon request of the client)
Hope that helps.....I could go on for hours on this subject as I have a couple of appentices I'm training right now. Which reminds me...trthskr....I could set you up with an apprentice if you have any interest in creating a lifevision for a sweet deal
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Don't worry about making a responce to long, this definitley has my interest.
Honestly I am not planning to do any payed coaching in the near future, perhaps I will never get into it. I don't really care about the money at this point, my own development both as a coach and a person is more important right now. I feel that coaching can help me with this and if I can help him in the process as well than thats awesome.
If you can set him up with a Apprentice in training please feel free to do this, I'd gladly 'back off'.