If I were in your shoes, I'd transform it. Shift your perspective so that you can see where expansion is available for you in the situation, and choose what you're willing to choose for yourself.
I'd start by examining what my beliefs about the situation are:
What will happen if I talk to her?
What will happen if I don't talk to her?
What won't happen if I talk to her?
What won't happen if I don't talk to her?
.... and then boldly examining those beliefs for truth.
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