Cheers,
Quote:
Originally Posted by LoveWisdom  People can do what ever they wish. |
This is a great quote, let us analyze the whole situation a bit more from a different viewpoint.
Every relationship bases on an agreement and has its own rules, which may, or may not, cover certain things like watching porn. In this case, it was most probably not explicitly defined in the agreement that watching porn would violate the rules of the relationship. The man implicitly thinks that it is his right to watch porn, whereas the woman implicitly thinks that he should not do it. Thereas, what we have here is a conflict.
1)
Global rules do not apply here. Do not have other relationships, other men or other pairs as a guideline, and do not use them as arguments. You should do what you think is best for your relationship, and ignore what "boys" or "feminists" say.
2) Consider the costs of a) yourself accepting the fact that the man watches porn, b) him giving up porn partially or completely, c) him being forced to accept your terms, but however continuing his practice in secret. Consider the impact of each choice to both of you individually, and the strain that is caused to the relationship by each choice.
3) Negotiate. Do not batter the other party with your ethics or morality unless you want to end up in choice c). Do not threaten unless you really feel this is a deal breaker. If you absolutely want him to accept, offer something sweet and sexy in return. If you want compensation, ask him for something similar. Go for win-win, and do not settle until both parties are happy.
Have a Dark day,
-SS