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Grazioso07 · 04-15-2007, 07:14 AM

Dear Freelancer:

Thank you so much for your detailed response! It really did help a lot! I guess I never realized that the fact that it bothered me so much when people seemed to have a hard time with me because of my looks, could actually be me believing that I didn't deserve them! What an interesting thought! I mean, I always knew that there was some sort of disconnect. I have many other friends who are beautiful (I did a couple Miss America pageants a few years go! Haha! They were actually really fun and super uplifting!!) Anyway, none of those girls ever really seemed to have much of a problem with this sort of thing, so I wondered why I did?? You know?? But I DEFINITELY know what you mean about internalizing a new belief!

Now, as to your comments about guys... LoL! Have you ever seen a supermodel with a short, fat, bald guy?? One who she absolutely loves... and she kisses his shiny head, and they are as happy as can be!? Haha! Most girls, especially ones that have been blessed/cursed with beauty..(whoops, sorry! I'm not internalizing it! I meant blessed...just blessed... LoL!)... anyway, most of them don't get any fricken attention from guys because, just like you said, guys are too afraid of them. Not to mention the fact that the few guys who aren't afraid of them and look at them as some sort of sick "challenge," aren't the guys that they want in the first place!! Does that make sense??? And lots of the girls that I know LOVE fat guys, love guys with glasses, and they think that the nerdier, the better! Girls love to be with guys who have their own quirks because then the girl can relax and show him the sides of herself that she may feel afraid to show everyone else - especially if she feels like she has to live up the expectations of being "beautiful." Have you ever seen the movie "Hitch?" If you have, that is kind of what I am talking about.

So, do me a small favor. The next time you see a beautiful girl...or any girl for that matter, PLEASE do not be afraid to talk to them. They WANT you to talk to them (unless they are shallow bitches...then you don't want them anyway). But, I hardly EVER got asked out, and every time I would ask a guy friend why it was the same story - "we all thought you had to have had a boyfriend already..." or, "guys have a hard time asking you out because you're so pretty." ARGH! So annoying! (That was also more of a rant that anything else! I apologize!) LoL!

Anyway, thank you again. I read your response to my fiance and he said that he couldn't agree more! Haha! So I know that he will be reminding me to accept my looks as a blessing and not cut them down. I was obviously given them for a reason, right?

I don't know what the hell that reason is, but only time will tell! :-D

So thank you thank you!!!

04-15-2007, 07:14 AM	#23 (permalink)
Grazioso07 Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 3	Thank you! :-D Dear Freelancer: Thank you so much for your detailed response! It really did help a lot! I guess I never realized that the fact that it bothered me so much when people seemed to have a hard time with me because of my looks, could actually be me believing that I didn't deserve them! What an interesting thought! I mean, I always knew that there was some sort of disconnect. I have many other friends who are beautiful (I did a couple Miss America pageants a few years go! Haha! They were actually really fun and super uplifting!!) Anyway, none of those girls ever really seemed to have much of a problem with this sort of thing, so I wondered why I did?? You know?? But I DEFINITELY know what you mean about internalizing a new belief! Now, as to your comments about guys... LoL! Have you ever seen a supermodel with a short, fat, bald guy?? One who she absolutely loves... and she kisses his shiny head, and they are as happy as can be!? Haha! Most girls, especially ones that have been blessed/cursed with beauty..(whoops, sorry! I'm not internalizing it! I meant blessed...just blessed... LoL!)... anyway, most of them don't get any fricken attention from guys because, just like you said, guys are too afraid of them. Not to mention the fact that the few guys who aren't afraid of them and look at them as some sort of sick "challenge," aren't the guys that they want in the first place!! Does that make sense??? And lots of the girls that I know LOVE fat guys, love guys with glasses, and they think that the nerdier, the better! Girls love to be with guys who have their own quirks because then the girl can relax and show him the sides of herself that she may feel afraid to show everyone else - especially if she feels like she has to live up the expectations of being "beautiful." Have you ever seen the movie "Hitch?" If you have, that is kind of what I am talking about. So, do me a small favor. The next time you see a beautiful girl...or any girl for that matter, PLEASE do not be afraid to talk to them. They WANT you to talk to them (unless they are shallow bitches...then you don't want them anyway). But, I hardly EVER got asked out, and every time I would ask a guy friend why it was the same story - "we all thought you had to have had a boyfriend already..." or, "guys have a hard time asking you out because you're so pretty." ARGH! So annoying! (That was also more of a rant that anything else! I apologize!) LoL! Anyway, thank you again. I read your response to my fiance and he said that he couldn't agree more! Haha! So I know that he will be reminding me to accept my looks as a blessing and not cut them down. I was obviously given them for a reason, right? I don't know what the hell that reason is, but only time will tell! :-D So thank you thank you!!!