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Originally Posted by VetTechJess  there are roles in society that everyone must play. these roles are not picked out by us, but the very people we associate with. our roles are picked out by none other than our peers. |
Hi Jess. Fortunately, what you are saying is not quite true, though I do understand why you feel that way - it's not fun being the object of people's derision.
But the reality is that other people don't select your role for you (and even if they could, they probably wouldnt as they would be too busy worrying about how they come across). No, the truth is that people respond to you based on how you project yourself in the world. People take you at face value.
If you project yourself as confident and self-assured, then thats how people will take you. If, however, you believe you are a victim, powerless to be anything else because you dont have any choice in the matter - well then thats how people will respond to you - they're just taking you at face value.
I can imagine that inside you, you're feeling an enormous amount of anger for being treated this way by "life". Perhaps you're already aware that enough anger suppressed for long enough causes feelings of depression. Anger is a very powerful, useful energy. What you need to do is harness this anger and use it to change yourself. People dont have the right to put you in the victim box. People dont have the right to make you feel this way. Screw what other people think - you're no reject and you deserve to feel good about yourself and happy.
Find the anger inside of you and bring it out in a controlled way to refashion how you present yourself to the world. You're not a victim. You're a vibrant, powerful human being and thats who the world is going to have to deal with from today onwards!