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Thats when I hit rock bottom, by no fault of my own.
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This is what they call a "disempowering belief."
Is what you say true? Yeah, basically.
But by looking at the world through that lens, are you empowering yourself? Are you allowing yourself to take control, or are you giving away your control?
Personally I think you're giving it away.
You've had bad stuff happen to you, you've had bad situations forced on you, this is a fact. The question now is whether you're going to allow yourself to be empowered, so that you can move on to better circumstances, or if you're going to wallow in the bad things that have happened.
If you do decide you'd like to move on, one easy thing you can do is each time you hear yourself saying, "Society forced this bad thing on me," Stop yourself, and then correct yourself, and instead say "It's my own job to fix it and I want to fix it."
You might be suprised at how a simple statement like that allows you to easily, over time, be freed from crappy situations.
I definitely know what you mean, when you talk about society forcing roles on you. It's happened to me a lot, very similar stuff to what has happened to you. I think it just takes persistence to eventually work your way out. It often has seemed to me like I drew a crappy lot in life, but over time if I can keep my attitude on change then things do change, slowly and surely, for the better. And really, those things which you think are so bad end up being growth experiences that you are grateful for later on.