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Originally Posted by Oldsoul  Hello All!
For about the last 5 years sex has been few and far between. Currently, it has been about a year since my wife and I have had sex. We do fight about it quite a bit. Again, our marriage is not perfect, but sex is really the main problem. If I could just forget about sex, we'd probably get along pretty well, but I cannot. |
Well of course you can't. A woman who you don't have sex with is your friend - not wife/girlfriend. If, as you say later, she is unwilling to attend counselling or make any effort to remedy the situation, you are out of options.
You need to divorce this woman - just tell her straight it's fine if she doesn't want sex, you can just be friends, here are the divorce papers.
Staying together "for your kids" is teaching them all the wrong lessons about relationships and about life. Do your kids a favour - have an amicable divorce and if they are old enough explain to them that although you are still friends you are no longer attracted to one another, if they are not old enough frame it in a way that seems appropriate to you, but one way or another level with your kids - I'm sure they will surprise you with how well they will deal with it.
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I ask her is she loves me, and she says yes. But she does say that right now she doesn't like me. But, again we do fight alot so, it is hard to like someone that you are constantly fighting with.
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You are co-dependent. That isn't love. It commonly passes for it, but it isn't.
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motivate myself to do anything. Which is a bummer because a little affection from her would be all I need to get out of this depression.
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And then you would be making your happiness dependent on someone else. That is not a healthy way to live. You need to get away from this dysfunctional woman and find yourself as a single person again, so you can be happy without anyone else having to do anything.
Gonzo