This may not be very helpful, but if you want someone going through a similar thing; I'm right here! My girlfriend, after much time of me trying to repair the relationship that, basically, she was destroying, broke up with me in a particularly cruel set of events.
Right now, my feelings are that I must spend my time tending to myself. If you are hurt and empty, it is better not to be thinking of helping someone else. How can you help someone else to feel better if you do not yourself? In this life, IMO, you come first.
I also strongly agree with the possessions. You need him out of your life for the time you take to heal. For stronger people it takes less time. If you have insecurities he will have to understand it will take you more time. "Needing space" sounds cliche, but it is a saying for a reason!
Go out with friends, do whatever hobbies you have, focus on enjoying yourself. When you feel you are in a better place (preferably the one before the relationship begun, if you can remember back that far) then you can summon the strength to help him. You say he is angry, confused etc. Well so are you. A lot (not all) of females are very good at putting their partners or close friends before themselves and it is more often than not a mistake.
After all, you are probably feeling as bad, if not worse than him, yet you are not acting in the way that he is. It seems that you have your head screwed on and that deep down, you know you have been a strong person here. I admire the quality that you will not jump to ruin his life after this.
Time is a healer working for us both right now.
Sean.  |