 Also...
Not to be a downer, but there are so many lessons contained within the divorce experience. The only way through it is to experience what you need to in order to grow and move on. It's very similar to a death experience, except with additional challenges of how you'll transition the relationship to become a two (hopefully healthy) household family.
I went through this eight years ago...and didn't realize the impact of the moment for at least nine months. Then is gently came upon me to process. I called this the grace of Spirit. The stress of divorce is huge. My Dad also passed away at the same time. Surprisingly, I didn't even know I was stressed at the time. It was as if I was in a bubble...in order to get through it, and then the feelings came along to be dealt with over time.
If you are a religious or spiritual person, you might consider praying for all concerned. I prayed for my former husband as well as myself, for our mutual peace and respect and healing. I believe that was the biggest help of all.
Blessings,
Pam
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