Leading is way harder though so I'm sure it takes time to build this type of intuition.
Yes. These days I have no problem with dancing Bachata with woman who say "I can't dance" when I ask them to dance.
When dancing with beginners there also the issue that it's sometimes not clear whether the woman feels a bit uncomfortable because she messed up a move a bit or whether the closeness is the cause. It sometimes a matter of preferring the explanation that the guy wants to be true.