You have a healthy idea of what you should be doing and where you are right now despite the drama which is going on. You respect him and want the best for him but you know what you are worth.
We have different faults to correct. He may indeed regret the way that he treated you and he may know that he is not in the best of positions right now. And you know you have your insecurities to work on. If you feel empty, fill yourself with love for yourself. You were fine before you guys started dating and with every trial there is ease. This will pass and you will come to a point where you will appreciate this experience. Keep this in mind. Though you may be feeling empty inside, this is not an experience empty of wisdom or guidance.
I think you need to clarify some things for yourself now. Spending time alone to really question where you stand on your insecurities, what progress you've made in general, and some thought on what you want in a relationship may help clear the fog. I try to advise people to look at every situation objectively. If you were watching a TV show in which this was happening, or if your friend were going through the same thing you are now, what would you tell this person? I think deep down we really know the answer to our questions, or at least we have some idea of what we should do.
I think the deadline idea is good. You have to move on with your life. Setting a date decisively also is a signal to yourself that you want to move on and maybe it can help you ease into the idea of your own independence of the relationship.  |